An in-home aide can make all the difference — but not if anyone becomes jealous or uncomfortable. How to help a spouse who’s jealous of a care aide.

I feel so bad for my mom. After several years of heavy and stressful caregiving, we found Anne (not her real name) about three months ago. She’s a great home care aide for my dad. Finally, he’s cooperative and smiling again. He has mild dementia and is in a wheelchair after a severe car accident, along with other ailments. She’s really amazing with him, which is wonderful to see and so much easier on everyone. He’s really bonded with her, and I think he may even have a crush on her.